Being a mom is such an incredible job, don’t you think? It’s amazing how it changes you, but truly in the best way possible. When you are blessed with this sweet little person to take care of and teach it’s really an awesome responsibility. But one that comes with a lot of tasks and busyness, too. That’s where this one important question to ask yourself as a mom becomes so key.
As moms we have a lot to do, believe me I know. I have a young daughter and another little one on the way, and I couldn’t be more excited about expanding our family! Of course, expanding our family also includes adding to the amount of laundry, the food preparation, the appointments, the errands and events… all the things that make life rather busy when you have little people at home.
Sometimes with all the busyness and daily tasks taking our time it can distract you from that very important question to ask yourself as a mom. The question that you probably contemplated plenty of times before you had kids and actually became a mom. That question that may be nagging the back of your mind…
How could I do an even better job in this wonderful role as a mother? What do I need to do to be an awesome mom? Really, these are versions of the same important question.
Now, it’s very important to note that this is absolutely NOT something to bring on the mom guilt. You know what I mean, that guilt you feel as a mom sometimes when you are human and not entirely perfect. Because NO ONE is perfect. This is not about being perfect, or struggling to reach the unreachable, the unattainable.
For example, I am not super organized. Incredible organization has just never been one of my strong suits, and it probably never will be. So it would be silly to sit here feeling guilty all the time for something I am not. I do my best and move on.
When you consider this important question to ask yourself as a mom, you need to think about your own strengths and abilities. You want to be an awesome mom, and that awesome mom is you! So when you think of what kind of parent you want to be, what ONE thing would you change or add to make things even better?
For me, I love art. I think of myself as a creative type and get so excited about doing arts and crafts. This is something I want to share with my kids! But I realized that sometimes we become so distracted with our weekly schedule that I forget to leave time for some creative fun (hello millions of prenatal doctors appointments, am I right??).
So when I considered this question, I decided I wanted to be intentional about planning art time into our schedule every week. This has led to Art Day! It’s not really all day, of course. But every Monday morning after breakfast I have a fun age-appropriate art activity planned for my daughter and I to work on together. We made these adorable finger painted heart bouquets, we made these handprint keepsakes, we made a painting for daddy to hang up at work…
The One Important Question to Ask Yourself as a Mom…
Have you asked yourself this question? How could you do an even better job in this wonderful role as a mother? What would you like to do to be even more awesome and enjoy more time with your kids? I would encourage you to choose one thing at first so it’s not too much – you can always add more fun things later!
Maybe you want to find more fun activities to enjoy together to add more family time to your lives.
You might decide you want to start your own Art Day, like we did.
Or you might choose to start a fun family night tradition, like game night or movie night.
You might want to include more time for literacy, and plan a trip to the library each week to check out exciting new books to enjoy together. Maybe even stop by for storytime at the library!
If you love spending time outside, you could plan more family outings to the park or walks around the neighborhood together.
Perhaps you’re feeling really busy and need a little more time to relax.
You might decide you need to connect with other moms to find support and share ideas – you could find a local moms group you want to attend.
Whatever you decide, this one important question to ask yourself as a mom is not meant to add stress or guilt. It’s meant to help you be more intentional about being the person you want to be. Enjoying every moment you can as mom, and making your time even more wonderful.
It’s amazing how many people see us with our daughter and remark that we should enjoy this time with her while she’s young, because kids grow up so fast. We are absolutely trying to do that – to enjoy our sweet girl and this amazing role as parents. I’m always looking to be intentional about planning a little extra awesomeness into our lives!
How would you answer this one important question to ask yourself as a mom?