5 Fun Ways to Be Social and Meet Mom Friends
My daughter was sick recently and we had to spend the entire week at home. We played with her toys together every day (her toy kitchen is her favorite). We read our small collection of books constantly (my girl is in this adorable stage where she wants to read A LOT of books every day, over and over, which is awesome). She would walk into her cardboard playhouse for some peek-a-boo fun.
We spent a lot of quality time together and she had time to recuperate from being sick. This time at home was super important, but I did notice myself getting antsy by the end of the week.
We moved to our current city less than a year ago and I recently had a revelation.
I absolutely love being a stay at home mom (SAHM) to my daughter and now to our new baby boy. Staying at home with my little ones is something I’ve wanted to do for so long – I remember telling my husband about it when we first started dating. Now, here I am and it’s the best.
But some things are not what I imagined. Of course we do crafts, read books, and have lots of playtime. That part is what I had envisioned. It’s my friendships that are not exactly what I had pictured. Meeting mom friends is not always easy.
As I mentioned, we moved to our current city a little less than a year ago. So it’s not totally surprising that I haven’t made a huge number of friends here. What is surprising is how much more difficult it is to make friends as a stay at home mom, and how much more intentional I have to be about meeting mom friends.
Back when I was working at a normal job outside the home, I interacted with a lot of people every day. I made friendships with several of my coworkers as we worked together constantly.
Now that I’m a stay at home mom, I spend a lot more time with just my two kids. That’s awesome and I wouldn’t trade this job for anything. But when my husband comes home after work it’s like I can’t stop talking. I have so much to say!
I share about the things we did during the day, something interesting we bought at the store, a new recipe I decided to try, an interesting article I read during nap time… A lot of the time I’m not sharing anything particularly important, I just need to talk to him!
Recently, my husband asked me to slow down and give him a moment when he got home. I realized then that I really needed to meet mom friends and spend time with other moms during the week. It’s good for my little ones to spend time around other kids, too. That social interaction and exploration is wonderful for them.
I can be shy sometimes, which makes meeting people a little harder, but I really wanted us to be more social during the day. After this revelation, I considered the resources in our city and made an action plan. I didn’t want us to be super busy every day and I definitely didn’t want to miss nap time (as a fellow mom, I’m sure you understand that). We just needed to spend time around other moms and their kids, where we could socialize and have fun with others.
If you’re feeling the need to spend more time around others, you may want to consider some of these possibilities, too. You’ll hopefully find a lot of opportunities for moms and kids in your town and meet some awesome mom friends!
5 Fun Ways to Be Social and Meet Mom Friends
1. Join a Mom Group
I really think as moms this is so important! While there are a lot of different mom groups, many of them offer similar things. A mom group can be a place to talk and share ideas, support each other, and build friendships with other moms. I love going to my mom group, and it has been a really fun place to meet friends!
It can feel like a breath of fresh air to spend time connecting with other women who have the same job as you. And since you all have little ones, it’s usually expected that you’ll have them playing together during group time.
There are many types of groups you can find. Some have more formal meetings than others, and even have speakers who talk about interesting topics like organization, discipline, child development, and crafting. Some groups also have a swap once a year where you can bring mom/kid items you want to give away and you can come home with “new” (used) things.
While many mom groups meet during the day, there are also some that have evening meetings to allow working moms to connect with each other. I have seen a lot of mom groups offered through local churches, and you don’t usually have to attend the church to join a group there. There are also some mom clubs that aren’t affiliated with a church.
To find groups in your area, consider asking some friends if they know of one they’d recommend. You can also try doing a google search for mom groups (or mom clubs) and include the name of your town. Once you find out your options, you can contact the group for more information to see which one fits you best.
Playgroups are different from mom groups, since they don’t have formal meetings. When you join a playgroup, generally you get together regularly with other moms who have kids of a similar age.
You can chat with the other moms while your little ones play together, making it a great place to meet mom friends. I have been to playgroups that meet at local parks each week and even at indoor kids locations in winter. My daughter loves to play with other kids her age – she’s super social.
Usually I have found playgroups through either a mom group or through friends. You might also find a playgroup through your church. Some playgroups meet in people’s homes, but you’ll have to decide how comfortable you are with that. Of course, if you know friends who host a playgroup at their home, you could ask to join.
3. Community Activities
There are also a lot of other activities you can attend with your kids, getting out of the house and around other people. I have heard of mom and baby hiking groups where you meet at different hiking locations to go on walks together with your little ones. There are also babywearing groups for moms who love their baby carriers.
And of course storytime at a local library or bookstore is always a favorite. My daughter loves the songs and stories when we attend a local storytime event. I have actually met mom friends at storytime, or even just recognized them afterward and said “hi” when I saw them around town.
4. Get Involved
There are lots of other fun ways to get involved and be social.
Maybe you have a passion for volunteering and could get involved in some way. If your kids spend time in school during the day, you could volunteer in their classrooms or on the PTA.
If you like working out, you could join a mom exercise class. Some workout classes have childcare, and others have you bring your kids (like a mommy boot camp).
If you’re looking for discussion, you might attend a women’s Bible study at your church (some even have childcare during meetings). You could also meet up with a few friends to form a book club, letting your kids play together while you talk. Just getting out of the house and being around other moms during the day is a great way to meet friends.
5. Start Something Yourself
One day I decided I really wanted to share my love of all things crafty with my daughter, that it was important to me as a mom. I knew I needed to schedule time for art with her, or we probably wouldn’t do it.
Of course an Art Day is all the more fun with a friend! So I invited my friend and her little one to join us for a weekly art-themed playdate. It’s not formal or fancy. We just find fun crafts to do with our kids, we each bring some of the supplies, and we work on them together. My friend and I get to spend time talking and hanging out while our little ones play and do art. It’s wonderful!
You might want to invite a friend with kids to come over for a weekly playdate. It could be informal, where the kids play together while you chat. It could also have a fun theme, like Art Day. Maybe you want to do lots of sensory activities with your little ones together (like sensory bins and playdough…).
Or perhaps when the weather is nice you want to meet at the park or go for walks together. If you and your mom friend both have kids in school during the day, maybe you’ll choose to meet for coffee each week or go out for lunch together.
You might even find some other moms looking to meet friends who would love to join you!
It can be difficult to meet mom friends and build friendships. Ever since I realized that I need to spend more time with other moms during the week, I’ve been much more intentional about it.
I considered the groups and activities offered in our area, and decided which activities my kids and I would enjoy. Then I set up a basic weekly schedule for us that still had lots of time for just us – to spend playing, reading, and hanging out together.
We don’t have something planned every single day, sometimes we just hang out at home. Because ultimately I still want to be a stay at home mom, spending lots of time with my little ones. That’s most important, not filling our time with activities needlessly.
I just don’t want to be cooped up inside every day when we don’t need to be. I want to spend a little time talking and connecting with other moms during the week while my kids play with friends. Finding the right balance is important.
While you’re here, don’t miss the one important question every mom should ask herself. Here’s to being the mom you’ve always wanted to be!
What fun ways have you found to be social and meet mom friends?